You probably know someone like an acquaintance of mine.
Several years ago it occurred to me that she often has negative thoughts about the plans of those around her, even her children. Truly, she is being realistic.
But she is seldom encouraging. And I really don’t talk to her about my plans because she will observe some potential pitfall. She doesn’t say no but it feels like she is saying, that is a bad idea – don’t do it.
Jeff Olson reports in The Slight Edge that according to social science research children hear five times as many nos as yeses.
I am guessing that it doesn’t get better as we continue in life.
This seems especially true if we choose a “career path” that isn’t “normal.” That is if we choose to be an entrepreneur, not an employee. Especially, if we start building a “pyramid scheme.”
Don’t you agree?
So, we learn that we need to spend more time with people who will affirm us in our “career choice.”
This is vital.
And it brings me to the concept of a yes-man as I first understood it.
My original concept of a yes-man was negative.
A yes-man was agreeing with an associate or superior to gain favor. That man or woman was not sincere and was seeking his or her own interests.
The person who surrounded themselves with yes-men was essentially weak and had nothing of value to share. Thus necessitating the need for the phony affirmation of yes-men.
That is not who we strive to be.
Perhaps because we start life with so many nos and likely continue to hear them we aren’t as confident in our own thoughts and decisions.
So we are encouraged to distance ourselves from the naysayers and hang out with those who are making similar choices to ours. But . . .
Let’s be clear about this – the network marketer is not weak.
Our decision to join a network marketing business was a daring decision.
We were aware of what many people think about our profession. In fact, many of us still harbored some of that mindset when we joined.
And even though we knew what others thought, we joined.
That takes courage and strength. But most likely we have exhausted our reserve of courageous strength after calling a few of our family and friends who turn out to be no-men.
So, we need to hang out with more yes-men. But what if we are married to a no-man/woman? What if our best friend is a no-man/woman?
What do we do? Where do we find the positive reinforcement that will fill up our courageous strength tank?
Here are two obvious suggestions followed by two not so obvious suggestions.
Your sponsor and/or immediate upline.
It is your sponsor and other upline’s job to stay plugged in with you. Your company’s compensation structure is designed to reward them more if you succeed than if you don’t. So they have a vested interest in your success.
Your upline doesn’t think you are crazy for building a network marketing. They are your loudest yes-men. The more you communicate with them the more yeses you will hear.
Therefore it is your job to stay plugged in with them.
Some people work closely with sponsors and upline. Some people don’t. That is your choice but make sure you get the maximum positive affirmation from your upline.
And while you are at it pass it back to them.
Company Regional and National Events.
There are several reasons for attending company events. It is the best way to stay informed of compensation plan updates and product launches.
We usually learn of the latest developments in the use of technology in selling our opportunity and products at company events.
And one of the best reasons is networking.
Introduce yourself to new people. Get contact info. Or just friend them on Facebook.
Then stay in contact with them.
Some of those contacts may become your best yes-men.
Those are the two obvious suggestions. And here are the two less obvious suggestions.
Create your own yes-groups.
Use the internet to attract even more yes-men. You can do that in several ways and on many social media platforms.
My preference is creating a Facebook business page and start building your own brand. Post items that will be helpful to others building a network marketing business and start inviting people to like your page.
You will be attracting people who love network marketing and you will create a positive place for network marketers.
You should be posting daily and engaging with those who show up on your page so it will be like a networking event in your community all day every day.
Finally, join other network marketing groups and meet new contacts.
Do online searches for MLM or network marketing groups and find one that works for you.
Observe the posted rules. Some allow, even encourage, people to post their opportunity information. Whatever the rules a good guide is to be more interested in helping others than helping yourself.
The best group I have found is one of the perks of an internet marketing training and affiliate program that focuses on network marketers. They have a Facebook group that both helpful and encouraging.
I found them almost two years ago. They aren’t free but they are valuable.
They train, mentor and coach and you choose the way you will build your business.
You have an opportunity to get a taste of the program in a free 10-day Attraction Marketing Boot Camp.
The Boot Camp link signs you up to receive 10 days of video training and an introduction to the program and the community that comes along with it.
It is only a Facebook group but it is a community in the best sense.
In closing, I volunteer to be one of your yes-men. I love what we do and the freedom it provides.
May you grow and prosper and do well and good with your prosperity.
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I’ll be in touch,